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Please help. I'm in a marriage where my husband deals in narcotics. Mainly heroin، and some cannabis. He smokes the weed regularly. My dilemma is that he says he will stop، but hasn't. We have been married for 7 years now. He promised me that he would stop if I had children. Now I have two babies، the eldest nearly 3 years old. I have attempted to talk with him on many occasions، with no success. I can't talk about this with anyone else as there are too many politics around both of our families. There is no one he respects and would be extremely upset if I got any aalims to intervene. Generally he is of good temper، he sits to pray Quran each day، and prays Salaah when he can. However it is getting difficult for me to communicate with him، as my concerns are now getting on his nerves. There are problems around communication. He says he isn't even doing anything wrong. My words are now perceived as criticism. Please advise me on the best way forward، whether to have patience for longer or to seek further help. Please provide me with contact details for this. I am becoming increasingly lonely and depressed، and am not happy. My home is half completed and I also have concerns around my husbands various relationships with other females. He is deceptive about his contact and I end up finding out about things from others or by coincidence. He is also very fussy about his food i am a good cook، but he offends me by not eating my meals. He has severely affected my behaviour and confidence. I feel I made an error in choosing him as a life partner، but am worried I will make another error by leaving him. I have done istikhaarA but would also like a scholarly view.

If you cannot help me، please direct me towards someone who can.
JazakAllah for your time and efforts.
29/07/2025